Sometimes, relationships come to an end, and while it’s sad, it may be for the best. No one deserves to be in an unhappy relationship. If you’re considering breaking up with someone, here are 4 easy steps that might help you out.
4 steps I used when breaking up
When the time comes to break up, I believe you shouldn’t act hastily. Take your time to calm down and think about the relationship. The good times and the bad.
1. If I still wanted to break up, I wanted to do it face-to-face or over a call. Why? Out of respect.
Though we’re not together anymore, my future ex still deserves respect. Besides, how would you feel if your ex broke up with you over text or on TikTok?
Now if you two don’t live close to each other, it’s okay to call. Calling can also work if you think your soon-to-be ex won’t take the break-up well. Why? Because you have to think about your safety. The last thing you want is to get attacked!
If your future ex wants to meet up after the call, my suggestion is to meet in a public place. If you think your upcoming ex may lose their mind, it would be a good idea to have friends or even a security/police officer nearby to jump in if anything happens.
2. In addition to doing it face-to-face, I always took the person aside and told them. That way, they wouldn’t get embarrassed and I wouldn’t look like a jerk! Besides, the break-up is nobody else’s business but ours.
3. When giving the news, be respectful and gentle. Think of the person as having a heart condition, and stress can kill!
4. Anytime I had to tell why I’m breaking up with someone, I told the truth…well, sort of. I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, so I said something general like “I don’t think we should be together anymore.” When the person asked why, then I told the truth bluntly but respectfully.
Be prepared for the person to defend themselves. Most people will be emotional and try to find out why you don’t want to be with them anymore. When this happens, just let the person have their say.
Anytime I broke up with someone, I anticipated this and had answers for the questions the person may have.
The takeaway
Remember that everyone deserves to have someone who loves and appreciates them. If your relationship is one of fear or toxicity, it’s best to rethink the situation.
Breaking up is never easy, but it’s always best to do it in person, safely and calmly.
Just saying!
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