What a Good Man Is Not…

There are many thoughts about what a good man is. Unfortunately, not many people talk about what a good man isn’t. Here is what I’ve learned that a good man is not. Want to know what they are? Keep reading!

The Red Flags

• Controlling – He will not demand to know where you are every minute of the day, check your phone, or decide who you can talk to.
  
  
• Manipulative – He will not guilt you into doing things. He will not emotionally, mentally, verbally, or physically abuse you. He won’t gaslight you, confuse you, or make you doubt yourself.
  
  
• Irresponsible – He will not lie on the couch and play PlayStation all day. He has a job or a legal way to earn money to pay his bills and take care of his obligations. Even if he has trouble finding work, a good man will not jump to a new job every week.
  
  
• Disrespectful – Here’s a quick test to determine if he is rude: Watch how he treats his mom. If he’s giving her craziness, what do you think he will give you? Now, it’s true that not all kids have loving relationships with their mothers, but there should still be respect for the woman who gave him life.
  
  
• Abusive – He will not put his hands on you in anger! He has been taught to love, care for, and cherish his woman.
  
  

Side note: If your man continuously puts his hands on you, run! Run now! Don’t have kids with this man! Don’t mix your finances with this man! Just get out any way you can!

• Always cheating – He will not date or have sex with other women. You will be the only woman he will want to be romantic with. If you’re not the only one, move on. You deserve someone who make you a priority .

The Takeaway

Many people have ideas about what a good man should be. I’ve learned that being controlling, manipulative, irresponsible, disrespectful, abusive, and unfaithful are not qualities of a good man. Actually, they’re qualities of what a good man is not!

I hope this post gives you a clearer idea of what a good man is not. Life is too short to be stuck with bad men!

Just saying!

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