It seems that in today’s sexually-charged U.S. society being a virgin is something that’s looked down upon, instead of celebrated. Hanging on to one’s virginity, or V-card, until marriage is a personal choice made for various reasons.
Want to know what the V-card is, why you should keep your virginity until marriage, and the pros and cons of it? Keep reading.
What does a V-card mean?
Simply put, it’s slang for virginity.
Why some people choose to keep their V-card
1. Personal Beliefs: Some people believe that having sex is a special experience that should be shared with someone important. So they decide to wait until they find that special someone.
2. Religious Values: Many religions encourage waiting until marriage to have sex, and followers might choose to keep their V-card for this reason.
In some religions–such as Christianity, Judaism, and Islam–waiting until marriage to have sex is encouraged. It is expected for a young lady to remain a virgin until she is married.
3. Avoiding Complications: By not having sex, you don’t have to worry about things like STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) or unplanned pregnancies. Abstinence is the only 100% effective birth control and STI prevention method.
4. Emotionally ready: Some people don’t feel ready and want to wait until they are ready.
5. Cultural Values: Throughout history, women have been seen as property or less than men. A daughter was used to make alliances between powerful families or nations.
Virginity carried immense value. Any rumors that the young woman had been ‘inappropriate’ with another man, would damage her public reputation and bring shame to her family in the eyes of the community.
Pros of Keeping Your V-Card
1. Emotional Comfort: Waiting until you’re ready can make your first time more enjoyable and less stressful.
2. Health and Safety: Having no sex means having no risk of STIs and unplanned pregnancies. Abstinence is the only birth control and STI prevention method that is 100% effective.
3. Staying True to Yourself: If you have strong personal or religious beliefs about sex, keeping your V-card will show that you are staying true to your beliefs.
4. Building Strong Relationships: With sex off the table, you can focus more on creating deeper emotional relationships with not just your partner; but with friends and family.
Cons of Keeping Your V-Card
1. Social Pressure: Friends or society might pressure you to have sex. Being constantly bombarded by the topic of sex can make this decision harder.
This is especially true for men. If they do not follow the social perception that men are always ready for sex, they could be seen as less masculine, ‘gay’, or a ‘virgin’.
2. Curiosity and Temptation: It’s natural to be curious about sex. Also resisting temptation can be tough, but it can be done.
Avoiding tempting situations, considering the consequences of the temptation you’re facing, using social media and the internet cautiously, and praying consistently are a few tips. For more tips on how to battle sexual temptation, click here.
3. Communication Challenges: Discussing your decision to hold onto your V-card with potential partners can sometimes feel awkward, but it’s a necessary conversation for serious relationships.
4. Changing Views: Your feelings about sex and virginity might change over time, and that’s okay.
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Takeaway
Keeping your V-card is a personal choice that should be based on what feels right for you. Whether you wait or not, the key is to feel confident and happy with your decision. Remember, it’s your body and your choice, and what matters most is your happiness and well-being.
Just saying!
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