There are some people who won’t agree with this point of view, but I’ve found out that doing this can avoid a lot of hassles. Telling a lie, instead of the truth, is one clear way to make life harder.
Why does lying make your life harder?
A lie or even ‘a little white lie’ creates a problem the minute it leaves your mouth. How? Well, to keep that lie going, you have to tell more lies to cover up that first lie. The whole thing grows bigger and bigger. It’s like a snow ball rolling downhill; getting bigger as it goes.
Are lies necessary?
Some people will say that there are times when a lie can be told. Such as not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings or to not get in trouble. How would you feel if I told you that telling the truth goes a lot better than you think?
An option to Lying
Using tact is a great way to tell the truth. Being tactful is the ability to say things in a way that is truthful and considerate of a person’s feelings.
For example, let’s say you go over to your friend’s house, and she wants to show you the jeans she just got. After she puts them on, she asks you that dreaded question, “how do I look”? Now your friend is standing there in some jeans that make her whole bottom half look two sizes too big.
On one hand, you don’t want to hurt her feelings, but, on the other hand, you can’t let her go outside looking like a mess. What do you say?
This is where being tactful comes in handy. Instead of focusing on her body, you focus on how the jeans look on her. For example, you would say, “Those jeans don’t really work for you. They’re baggy in the back, and don’t show off your ‘assets‘.”
Now if your friend is like most women, she’s not going to want to wear something that doesn’t look good on her. So you’ve told the truth and are still have your friend.
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The Takeaway
Telling a lie may seem like a way to avoid hurt feelings or punishment. In reality, all it does is make life harder. You need more lies to cover up that first lie.
Though some people may not want to tell the truth, there are ways of getting it out there. Such as being tactful when delivering tough news or opinions.
Just saying.
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