Sometimes a relationship has to come to an end. It’s sad on both sides, but it can be for the best. No one should be unhappy with someone they love. Here are easy steps I learned and used when I had to break up with someone. To find out, keep reading!
The break up steps that worked for me
When the time came to break up, I didn’t want to act hasty. This was a serious relationship in life, The first thing I did was to calm down and think about the relationship. The good times and the bad.
1. If I still wanted to break up, I told the person face-to-face. Why? Because it’s the most respectful way. Think about this. How would you feel if your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you over text or on TikTok?
If you two don’t live close to each other or you think your boyfriend or girlfriend won’t take it well, call.
If the ex wants to meet up after the call, make sure you two meet in a public place with friends or even a security/police officer nearby to jump in if anything happens.
2. Once I decided to talk to the person, I wanted to get the person alone in a quiet corner of the room. I didn’t want to do it in front of others. Why? First of all, it’s none of their business. Secondly, I didn’t want to embarrass him or myself.
Now, if my soon-to-be ex was liable to get physical, I still would have done it in a quiet corner but in view of backup. in case something happens. I’d rather be safe than sorry!
3. Be respectful and gentle. Think of the person as having a heart condition and stress can kill!
4. I’d tell the truth, well, sort of. I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, so I said something general.
Like, for example, say I have a friend who is stealing money from me. Instead of saying, “You’re a thief and I hate you!” (Which is what I’d be thinking), I’d say “I don’t think we should hang out anymore”.
If the person asks why, then I’d tell the blunt truth; respectfully though. Such as “I found out that you stole from me, and that hurt. If you needed something, you should have asked”.
Now be prepared for the person to defend themselves. Most people will be emotional and trying to find out why you don’t want to be their friend anymore. If this happens, it’s a good idea to let the person have their say.
As a side note: It’s good to have answers for the questions the person may have.
Sometimes relationships have to end. A break up is not a pleasant thing, but it has to be done. It’s always best to do it safely and calmly. If it can be done in person, that is best.
However, if you can’t be in a peaceful situation, then there are other options.