I want to preface this post by saying that 1) these are my opinions and experiences, and 2) I don’t feelanyone under 15 should be dating alone. There is safety in numbers. I’m all for group dates.
Dating is something that happens in some cultures. It’s a way for two single people to spend time together and get to know each other better. When I was single, I dated some. During that time, I learned four excellent tips to use on any date.
Must-do tips for every date
1. Always take some money
You should do this every time you go out. In the US, some men feel that if they pay for everything on the date, the woman should repay him with sex. Please don’t fall for it! Money makes you independent and not in debt to the person who pays.
So that you know, this tip came from my mom’s boyfriend before my first date. Since then, I’ve always followed this tip. When I go out on a date, I always have some cash or my debit card.
2. Always offer to split the bill
You don’t have to insist; just offer. In my opinion, it takes away the power of ‘if the guy pays, the woman gives him sex’ argument. I learned this tip from an older guy while discussing my upcoming first date.
3. Always let someone know who you are with and where you two are going
Always ALWAYS tell someone who you are with and where you two are going. That way if you go missing, authorities will know where to start looking for clues. Your date may not go like this, but there are stories. So be aware.
Don’t be afraid to leave if the date becomes creepy or scary. Never stay in a situation where you feel unsafe.
If the situation starts to get a little crazy, you can always go to the ladies restroom and call a friend to come to pick you up. In a worst-case scenario, you can contact an Uber, Lyft, or taxi.
Even if he pleads to take you home after you try to bail, don’t accept. This could be a trick to get you somewhere and take revenge on you. Crazy talk? Jumping to conclusions? Maybe, but it’s better to be safe than sorry!
4.Do not have sex or drink alcohol on a first date
Having sex too soon into a relationship will give the impression of being easy and THAT kind of girl! You don’t want that. It’s not a good look.
Also, alcohol (and drugs) lowers your guard and dulls your senses. These can leave you open to all kinds of danger.
If you drink, keep it in your sight at ALL TIMES. Get a new drink if your eye goes off it. Some people will drug a girl’s drink to take advantage of her.
Ever heard of Roofies or the date rape drug (Rohypnol), liquid ecstasy (GHB), or Special K (Ketamine)? Real folks use these drugs on real people; it’s not just something Hollywood thought up. Men and women do it.
Dating is okay. You will have a fun time if you follow these excellent four tips for every date to stay safe. Just my opinions, though.
If you have any tips you want to share, please put them in the comments below. They may help someone else!